1. Everyone is human
Remember that the people you think are ‘cool’ are really no different than you.
Everyone has their own problems, insecurities and doubts.
Stop thinking that they are better than you.
2. Give yourself credit.
Stop being so hard on yourself.
Remember all the good things you’ve done.
Remember how far you’ve come.
You’re doing great, just remind yourself of it more often.
3. Put yourself in an uncomfortable position.
This is the best way to overcome shyness.
Join a club, go to events and put yourself out there.
These uncomfortable situations will soon become comfortable, and then you will become a confident person.
4. Get in shape and dress well.
The easiest way to be confident is to look good.
If you don’t like the way you look, you’ll be shy in social settings.
If you love your appearance, you will feel proud and confident in a public setting.
5. Allow yourself to make mistakes.
As sweet as it sounds, ‘Rome was not built in a day’.
You are allowed to make mistakes.
This is how we learn and grow as human beings.
6. Less planning, more action.
Too much planning can lead to overthinking and anxiety.
Take action instead!
Also, the more times you do something, the more confident you will get.
7. Believe in yourself.
Even if you don’t believe in yourself, you can trick your brain into believing.
Before bed every night say “I am a confident person” 10 times.
It will be programmed into your subconscious and trick you into becoming confident!
8. Take risks.
I know it’s scary, but you need to take risks.
If your dream looks too risky and scary – break it down into smaller parts.
Then it won’t be as intimidating to pursue.
According to Psychologists, there are four types of Intelligence:
1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)
1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): This measures your comprehension and problem-solving abilities, such as math skills, memory, and recalling information.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): This measures your ability to maintain harmonious relationships, punctuality, responsibility, honesty, respect boundaries, humility, genuineness, and consideration for others.
3. Social Quotient (SQ): This measures your ability to build and maintain a network of friends over a long period of time.
It is important to note that individuals with higher EQ and SQ often achieve greater success in life compared to those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Unfortunately, many schools prioritize improving IQ levels while neglecting EQ and SQ.
In reality, someone with an average IQ but high EQ and SQ could end up being employed by a person with superior emotional and social intelligence.
Your EQ represents your character, while your SQ represents your charisma. Therefore, it is crucial to cultivate habits that enhance these three quotients, particularly EQ and SQ.
Additionally, a new paradigm has emerged:
4. the Adversity Quotient (AQ). AQ measures your ability to navigate through challenging situations without losing your mental well-being. It determines who will persevere, who will abandon their loved ones, and who may even contemplate suicide when faced with hardships.
Parents are urged to expose their children to various aspects of life beyond academics. Encouraging them to appreciate manual labor (avoid using work as punishment), engage in sports and arts can contribute to their holistic development.
It is essential to nurture not only their IQ but also their EQ, SQ, and AQ. This will enable them to become well-rounded individuals capable of independently handling challenges without relying solely on their parents, teachers, or coaches.
Finally, do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road.
What are some nice shortcuts or ‘cheat codes’ in life?
Cheat codes I knew by 42 I wish I knew at 22:
- Use workouts to gain muscle, diet to burn fat, and cardio to improve your overall health and longevity.
- Eat a high-protein diet comprised of whole foods for the best body composition.
- When lifting weights use your mind to muscle connection to increase muscle contraction.
- Upon waking up, drink water before having coffee.
- Delay coffee for 1–2 hours upon waking up. This lets cortisol clear out adenosine, which can lead to sustained energy into the afternoon.
- Use your nose for smelling and breathing. Use your mouth for talking, tasting, and eating.
- Mouth breathing disrupts sleep, ruins oral health, and can cause sleep apnea. Mouth taping at night helped me solve this.
- Mouthwash is the biggest dental scam. It kills your oral microbiota. Best to avoid it completely.
- Avoid fluoride in your toothpaste. Use the ones that have hydroxyapatite.
- Sleep at the same time every day. Align your body with the rising and setting of the sun.
- Use the 321 method for better sleep: No eating 3 hours before bedtime, no liquids 2 hours before bedtime, and no screens 1 hour before sleep.
- If you look at screens at night, wear blue light blockers.
- You sleep for a third of your entire life at the very least. Thus, learn how to optimize it and make it as awesome as possible.
- Memory is fallible. So when you have a brilliant or decent idea, just write it down immediately.
- Your best ideas come whilst in the shower, walking, or in the gym. Keep a notepad ready.
- Peel a boiled egg by rolling it around your plate for a while until all the shells are cracked. This makes it easy to remove the complete shell in one shot.
- Close the toilet bowl when flushing to avoid particles of filth sprouting up into your bathroom atmosphere.
- The more you criticize others, the more you criticize yourself. If you want to judge yourself less, then judge others less. If it doesn’t cause critical harm to you or someone else directly then just let it be; they will eventually realize they made a mistake and fix it next time. We all live and learn.
- Stay away from people who always complain. They are energy vampires. Best to steer clear of them.